Are you playing your role?

Genesis 2:18–25: “Then the LORD God said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.' ... So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man."

I remember when I first got married and as a wife I started praying for my husband . Not only did I pray for him but I would also try to enforce my prayers lol. One day I was cleaning the bathroom and I heard Gods voice as clear as can be. He said “you’re praying for me to change him , but you’re not letting me do it “.

Sometimes we ask God for things and try to make them happen ourselves too. I’m great full not just as a Christian and a person , but as a wife I am forever learning. It’s funny because I’ve heard a lot of men including my husband say to their wives “you sound like my mom “. We definitely joke about it , but as wives and those to one day be wives we have to remember that we are not our husbands mothers, but his help.

Things work best operating in their function. If you put an engine in the trunk, it does the car no good, but it’s still needed. Whether your a husband or a wife remember that you’re needed .God made man and woman different for a reason. It’s not our job to change Gods original plan and design. It’s our job to find out what it is and live it out , so that we’re operating at our best . It’s our husbands job to love us as Christ loved the church and our job in marriage to be his help.

The more time I’ve spent with my husband, the more I’ve learned how to be his help In many different ways . Sometimes it’s reminding him of things that he has to do , other times it’s prayer, encouragement and reminding him of who he is as Gods child or simply just being there .

Now If you’re a woman reading this , please by no means read this thinking that I mean you should be a push over . But as I stated before God has a plan and a blue print for life , for man and woman. The only way for things to properly flow is for you to know what that is and operate in it .

In future blogs you’ll hear me talk more about this from my husbands perspective and about how a man loves a woman as Christ loves the church ! But for now I want to encourage you .

Sometimes we’ve been in relationships that were very traumatic or hurting and they caused us to come out of it bitter , hurt and carrying those things into our marriages . Causing us to not truly operate in our role as man and woman. Your soul, the real part of you is what you need to ask God to cleanse from those things and trust me he will! Remember God is the designer and he's purposed things to work a certain way. Find out what that is so that you can be the best husband or wife that God intended.