A picture captures a moment, but the real happiness for me is this everyday life that I get to spend with my husband. August 15'th 2015 I said "I do" and I am thankful to everyone who helped in making sure that we were both ready for this day.
Some singles often ask me "If you could give one piece of advice what would it be?". My response is to enjoy your singleness. Now before you go thinking, let me explain. My reason for this isn't because I'm unhappy because I am very very happy in my marriage lol. It's because marriage is so much more sacred and serious than we think and I've seen so may suffer. It's something that God created not to be broken but eternally unified in him.
Have you ever seen the movie "It takes two?" It's so true lol! I've seen plenty of movies so let's just be cheesy for a second. Let's take a safe for instance. There are some that require more than one person to enter a code together in order for it to be opened. Not because one can't be trusted, but to make sure that what's inside is always protected. This might sound crazy, but it's so true. Whether you're married or aspiring to be married one day remember this, you have to always be working together to protect the wonderful thing that you have together. A covenant, a union. What you are to and for each other is a precious gift that no one else can give.
With God as the foundation as both of you, it makes you so much stronger together. Do some people have happy marriages without living for God? Yes, but because God created it things could be so much better and secure with him being the foundation. With every trial, disagreement or emotion we're always accountable to God first and that's what keeps us strong together.
We never knew that so early on in our marriage that we would go through some of the things that we did. I never thought that I would have a miscarriage so early in life, be in two car accidents in less than 3 months and struggle with fear and shame. However, I have an awesome husband who everyday talked sense to me, prayed for me and helped guide me to be free from those things. Dealing with me not being able to sleep, crying and other things. These are things that a picture can't capture and sometimes words can't even explain.
Theres a scripture that talks about our husbands loving their wife as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5). While no person is perfect this is something that I feel my husband has and is learning every single day. Marriage is a union but it's also ministry and if I didn't have that in my home I don't know if I would have made it through those hard times. God uses people and in marriage you get to give and receive that experience of his love.
While all of this may be great for me, I know that some of you may not have experienced the same story. Some of you may have been hurt, are hurt, or are just not ready or want to be married. At the beginning I stated how the Bible talks about the two becoming one. Before you can be apart of that two, you need to be one so that you can give 100%. Now you don't have to be perfect, but take care of yourself. If you're struggling with things personally allow God to help you with those things first. Become whole as an individual.
There's no rush because there's a million people in the world lol. I also highly recommend pre-marital counseling, it's amazing and depending on who you have so much fun. There are other things that I'll share later, but for now here's a quick prayer...................
Dear God,
Thank you for every person reading this. Thank you that they are special and chosen by you. You know exactly where they are, there desires, hurts, scars and more. Some married, some , wanting to be married and some just trying to find themselves. I thank you that who we are is found in you and as we draw near, you draw near to us. So help every person reading this. If they are struggling in their marriage bring unity, make them whole as individuals and show them who they are in you. If they are hurt, heal. If they are angry help them to forgive. If they are wanting to be married prepare them and if they are unsure of who they are show them what your word says. Let every marriage be blessed each loving the other as you love us every single day. Showing grace, favor, forgiveness and patience. In Jesus name... Amen!
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