Two are better than one!

“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.” ‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4:9‬ ‭

When I first got married one of the adjustments for me was becoming one. I was so used to doing what I wanted, and not having to worry about talking to anyone else about making plans. When you're dating you can pretty much do whatever you want and go back home. When you get married, you have to consider someone else in your plans. This is something now that just comes natural to me and I wouldn't trade it for anything. It's nice to have someone help me when I might not necessarily be making a plan the right way or at the right time.

A lot of times when it comes to marriage, some wives play around and say " what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours". Or "what's mine is mine and what's yours is mine". I've been this person at times. But over time I've learned not to say that. When going into marriage, you should never go into it with that mentality, whether you're the husband or the wife. What if your husband or wife chose to abide by that statement?

I remember a time when I got into two really bad accidents, about a month apart. In some ways, this affected us financially. We had to get a new car, had bills and until the claim was filed we were still responsible for the old car payment. Now the car was in my name, but because of my injuries and having to get an attorney, some of my pay wasn't as much as normal. My husband not only took care of me, but a lot of our finances during that time, even though it wasn't his car and he had nothing to do with the accidents. What if we had actually agreed to one of the statements above (whats's mine is mine)? What would I have done? I could have possibly been stuck.

I know that every married couple is different. Some like to keep their finances together and some don't and in my opinion that's okay. You just never want to have a mentality of separation, because you need each other. The bible talks about a house being divided against itself not being able to stand and I am learning this more and more. Sometimes not just as a married couple, but as people we are divided and we don't even realize it. You're foundation has to always be God and you have to always reference everything back to his word.

You see me write a lot about playing your role in marriage and this is something I go back to everyday. I have learned and am learning to be my husbands help, and he's also learning day by day to be who he is supposed to for me.

This scripture talks about 2 being better than one because they have a good reward for "their labor". Whether you're single, planning to be married one day, or already married , always give 100%, not 50/50. You are both responsible for loving each other the way that God loves you, and he loves you with 100% of himself everyday.